Ouch! That hurts.

Newsletter from August 26, 2024

If you have a body, at some point, you will have pain.  If you use your heart to love, at some point, you will have grief.  Welcome to the various facets of being alive!  If you are here, really here, you are here for the whole thing; the good and bad, the beautiful and ugly, the joy and sorrow.  Ideally, the whole mix is filled with goodness.

With support, pain and grief can create intimacy and connection.  In community, shared joy and sorrow can create a movement.  When we experience any of these opposites from a place of trust and connection, evolution, transformation and change can happen cleanly and with ease.

Is this your experience of life?  Does the joyful dance of experience meet the rising of the moment and then let it go to meet the next moment with no residue?  Is this even possible?

Most of us live with some measure of unresolved pain all the time.  Whether the pain is only partly metabolized or stored whole in a part of our body, undigested pain can cause a dampening effect on one’s experience of life.  Imagine burning your tongue on hot liquid.  Nothing that touches your tongue for a while will feel or taste right.  The pain lessens the sensation and experience of what could be an extremely tasty activity.  Most of the time, a slight burn will heal in a day or two.  This is the normal and healthy way of things.

So what happens to our experience of being one with life and woven into all things when we are carrying pain around all the time?  When was the last time you felt complete belonging here in your body, your life and this world?  Well, just like a burnt tongue, pain that doesn’t resolve creates a barrier that doesn’t allow the full feeling of joy or sorrow, it doesn’t allow the full alchemy of pain and connection that can create intimacy.

This pain load is sometimes the primary reason people seek therapy, coaching or spiritual direction.  Life wants resolution and healing.  A scrape on the skin will heal on its own if it isn’t tampered with.  Life knows how to do that. Yet, somehow, we tend to carry so much for so long.

When we sit with others, what are the most effective ways to encounter those thorny pains that keep hanging on?  How can we loosen up the blocks to the natural healing Life knows how to do?  Session 2 of “Reclaiming Oneness” webinar will be a close look at what is going on spiritually with unresolved pain in the form of suffering and trauma.  We will look at these as primary disruptors of our experience of Oneness and explore where they fit into the larger picture as a template for healing.  More information about this webinar series at Reclaiming Oneness.

What is this like for you?  Are you carrying around pain that you would love to release?  What ways have you found to access true healing?  Feel free to share.

Blessings,

Sarah